When you’re 19, everything you think about is the next game, the next practice, and possibly your next opportunity to play for the first team. For Mark Verkuijl, however, everything changed in a single, catastrophic moment. Elisa, his 21-year-old girlfriend, was struck by a car when she was jogging next to Ede. She failed to make it. The ensuing silence was a breach rather than merely an absence.
Emotions had only grown more intense by the time Jong Ajax played RKC Waalwijk four days later. A postponement was requested by the club. Citing their guideline that only direct losses of team or staff warrant a delay, the KNVB rejected it. Given how closely Elisa had been involved with this young team, the choice felt shockingly tone-deaf.
Verkuijl entered the field with her name in his hands rather than donning a costume. He placed a white Jong Ajax shirt with Elisa’s name on the back and the number 21 in the middle of the circle. Football finally slowed down at that incredibly obvious period of silence. It wasn’t about scorelines or youth development for sixty seconds. It was about loss, pure and simple.
Yes, there was a match that ensued, but it was not played with precision. Not even the final score of 0–2 registered. Although they went through the motions, players’ thoughts were elsewhere. Their tentative passes and exhausted looks betrayed it. Even the normally boisterous stands seemed noticeably quiet.
| Item | Detail |
|---|---|
| Name | Mark Verkuijl |
| Age | 19 |
| Club | Jong Ajax (Ajax Reserves) |
| Relationship | Girlfriend Elisa (21), deceased |
| Date of Incident | December 18, 2025 |
| Cause | Fatal accident during jogging, hit by car |
| Tribute | Minute of silence, shirt on center circle |
| Match Played | Jong Ajax vs RKC Waalwijk (0–2) |
| External Reference | Coverage from NOS, AD.nl, Voetbalzone |

Following the game, coach Willem Weijs stated that “our heads were elsewhere” and that sincerity was more important than any tactical synopsis. Despite not playing, Verkuijl remained a constant presence throughout the game. His non-dramatic act of memory struck a chord since it wasn’t intended to become viral. It was quite human.
The Dutch football community has shown solidarity in recent days. Condolences were sent by rival fans. Beyond club boundaries, players embraced Verkuijl with genuineness. Before kickoff, Godfried Roemeratoe, the captain of RKC, crossed the field to give him an embrace. It served as a reminder that empathy is colorless.
Personally, I was impressed by Verkuijl’s poise in handling this hard situation. No interviews. Avoid the dramatic monologue. It was merely a silent gesture that was more significant than any pregame remarks. The circle, the clothing, and the stillness were all incredibly powerful ways to express love without using words.
Elisa was not well-known. Prior to that terrible Thursday, she had not made headlines. However, her life grew figuratively as a result of the sorrow of people who knew her. She was warm, athletic, and grounded, according to her friends. It felt especially awful that she died while jogging, which is a calm activity.
The motorist, a Veenendaal resident, 54, ran away from the scene but was apprehended shortly after. The legal process will go on, but neither Verkuijl nor Elisa’s family will find closure via punishment. A void like that doesn’t fill.
This was a devastating lesson in fragility for Jong Ajax, a team primarily composed of youngsters and players in their early twenties. Many of them are adjusting to pressure, ambition, and identity while living alone for the first time. The foundation is rocked by losing someone like Elisa—not in an abstract way, but as a teammate and someone they knew.
Discussions over the KNVB’s regulations have surfaced since the homage. Some contend that policy clarity is important. Others, including myself, think that where human suffering is involved, there should be flexibility. Checklists don’t adequately capture grief. Sometimes you have to ask players directly, “Are you really ready?”
Moments like these test the football calendar’s infamously harsh schedule. Instead of encouraging performance, they encourage introspection. And as the game continued, a fundamental change had occurred. It reverberated throughout the entire team, but suddenly there was just one seat, one laugh, and one memory gone.
Verkuijl was able to grieve on his terms because to the club’s strategic empathy. No one shoved him in front of the cameras. His homage was not made into a commodity. That self-control was especially considerate and merits recognition.
The score suddenly disappears from my memory of the game. However, I will never forget the picture of that shirt on the center circle, flapping a little as the wind blew through the deserted stadium. It wasn’t a headline or a strategy. It was a sentimental, priceless, and wonderful farewell.
